Let’s be honest
“We’re all on team human here, and let’s be honest—it’s not an easy team to be on. It’s stressful and taxing and worrisome, but it’s also fulfilling and beautiful and bright. In order for all of us to experience the full breadth of team human, we have to communicate. Talking about how you’re feeling is the first step to helping yourself. Depression is a problem that actually has so many solutions.”
So let’s talk about something less jovial today.
But still, rest assured we will tackle this from a positive angle.
I think it is very important we talk about this because sad emotions and feelings of depression are things we all go through at some point in time in our life.
But still, we will not let this stop us from reaching our greatest potential.
Today we will be looking at how many successful people have been able to achieve numerous goals even though they went through dark times of depression.
You are not weird
Before we proceed to talk about how successful people overcome depression, I will like us to feel comfortable being vulnerable about our mental health.
True mental illness has a lot of stigmas but letting the fear of what people will say guide the way we handle it will only serve to make matters worst.
One of the bravest person, I have ever known, is a friend of mine who has some mental health issues and this is widely known by those around him but no one around him looks at him and sees a poor boy with mental health issues.
Nope, he is very jovial, upbeat, going for his dreams, taking his meds and being as productive as he can.
He doesn’t let the limitations he has due to his mental health get him down, he is a true role model as far as I am concerned.
Famous people who went through depression
Also, so many successful people, who we know and love have gone through stages in their lives when it was had to wake up, had to find joy, hard to see the bright side, some even thought about taking their own lives, unfortunately, some did.
- Kristen Bell
- Lady Gaga
- J.K Rowling
- Jon Hamm
- Owen Wilson.
The names listed above are just a few of the brave souls who overcame this stage in their lives and still found a way to work towards their success despite them facing downtimes.
So today we will be talking about ways in which they succeeded to do this.
Ways we can all apply in our lives when we go through these tough times.
Why are you depressed?
Listening to the stories of many people who have gone through depression, they always talk about how they found it hard to know what was actually causing them to feel depressed.
One successful youtuber talks about beginning to feel depressed when she was at the top of her game.
She just got married to the man of her dreams, they had just begun a really successful business and they had the financial freedom to travel around the world but yet she felt depressed.
Most of our celebrities who face depression find it hard to find sympathy for the mental struggles they are going through as many feel that their lives are so good to feel depressed.
So why then do we feel depressed?
According to kidshealth.org,
Lots of things influence whether a person gets depressed. Some of it is biology — things like our genes, brain chemistry, and hormones. Some is environment, including daylight and seasons, or social and family situations we face. And some is personality, like how we react to life events or the support systems we create for ourselves. All these things can help shape whether or not a person becomes depressed.
Also, Reasearch has also shown that a majority of people get depressed due to suppressed emotions.
And that getting depressed is our body’s way of telling us that there are so many things we need to deal with.
So on the bright side, depression is the signal that tells us, ” hold on, we have been moving too fast, we have let so many emotions unresolved”
Yes, our body keeps score.
More on this is elaborated by Bessel Van Der Kolk in his book the body keeps score
Can you be active and depressed?
Now that we have looked through some of the reasons why we could be depressed let’s touch on another question which I know many of us have about depression.
So many people have been accused of lying about their depression due to the way they handle it.
You sometimes hear statements like,
- how can you be depressed, you are always the life of the party
- You can’t be depressed look how good you look.
- or most silly of all, you can be depressed when your life looks so perfect on social media.
Yes, you can be active and depressed
Successful model and actress, Cara Delevinge has openly spoken about fighting with depression for several years, yet still being active enough to maintain her successful career.
Many have a fixed mind of how a depressed person should act and talk like and when they don’t see those signs, they are quick to dismiss your feelings.
This was the case of a young college student spoken about in the book ” mindset, the new psychology for success.
This student was feeling depressed and decided to pay a visit to a school counselor for some help.
After he told the school counselor how he was feeling.
The school counselor then went on to ask him some questions like,
are you able to wake up from bed and go to class?
are you able to attend and follow up with your lecture?
When the student responded yes to all of the questions, the counselor went on to tell him he was not depressed.
But Dr. Carol S. Dweck, author, and renowned psychologist begs to differ.
She says in her book Mindset, the new psychology for success, that this young student was depressed.
He had the growth mindset, a mindset which most successful people have and which helps them stay on track even when they are in a very dark place.
How successful people overcome depression
Okay now, let’s dive into how many successful people have been able to handle and overcome depression.
As I hinted above this can be achieved by first of all adopting the growth mindset.
A mindset not only helpful for handling depression but for handling life in general.
I will recommend you get the book mindset, the new psychology for success but still, I will try my best to summarize characteristics of this mindset.
people with the growth mindset view every situation in life as a learning experience.
Yes, even situations like depression.
They tell themselves just because I am not okay today doesn’t mean it’s impossible to be okay tomorrow.
People with there growth mindset believe in progress and so are very motivated to work towards it.
Having the growth mindset sends you in search of a solution to your present problem.
Some Helpful Actions To Take To Overcome Depression
I strongly do believe if you are reading this article, the is a high probability that you have this mindset and are here for a solution, to your problems, great step.
Here it is.
1. Tell People about it
Talk to a family member, a friend, most preferably a doctor.
The more you try to keep it to yourself, the worst you might feel.
Yes, you got that right meditation.
It has been scientifically proven that meditation has a healing effect on our bodies.
It takes us to a state similar to the one we are in when we sleep.
It helps us relax and reflect some of the emotions we have suppressed within.
An awesome app to help you begin your meditation process gradually is an app called headspace.
You might also want to monitor your heartbeat rate during meditations or throughout the day.
HeartMath is a stress management system that helps you synchronize your brain and heart for optimal stress resistance and mental performance. It trains you to optimize your heartbeat to levels that are normally only possible with specific meditation or yoga.
It is a well-researched product which has been very helpful for so many.
This is a device which you can connect to your phone to see your heartbeat rate throughout the day
This has been proven to help reduce your stress levels and anxiety by increasing your inner security
4. Yoga / Exercise
Again scientifically proven benefits of this.
The hormones realized during exercising or yoga takes our mind to a very positive place.
Did you know your brain is linked to your gut?
And that food and your environment affect your gut.
This effect on our gut, whether good or bad is transferred to our brain.
This is according to the research done by Mark Hyman, MD
Enlightening research he shared in his book The Ultramind Solution
Read about the ways in which you can better yourself and improve your mental state.
by working on your environment, diet and so much more.
All the books I have mentioned above are very helpful and well researched.
You will also want to get The five minutes journal to help you keep track of your life.
You must not start with all I recommended above.
You could just start with one and be consistent with it.
Consistency is the only way to create long-lasting effects.
Listen to your body
Let’s round up this article on how successful people overcome depression by reminding ourselves to listen to our body.
Feeling depressed and having sad emotions are things we all go through, there is no vaccine for them.
What really makes the difference is how we handle these emotions, how we process them.
By listening to the way we feel and continuously making an effort to maintain attitudes which keep us in the right state of mind to overcome them, we are in a step in the right direction.
I hope you found this article helpful, I will love to hear from you, have you ever being through depression or experienced some sad emotions, what steps are you taking to overcome them.
As usual, my friends go be legendary.